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„Matrescence

The process of becoming a mother: the physical, psychological and emotional changes one goes through before and after the birth of a child.”

This word found me after I had already haphazardly gone through the messy process of becoming a mother. A lonely process that is largely hidden behind the pale image of the tired, but smiling mother who has no needs and silently manages everything alone. This cultural standard is disconnecting women, yet again, from each other and from their own inner realities. Women are expected to automatically, without instruction or support, manage the majority of childcare, household tasks, and caring (or not) for her own changing body, mind, and soul. This is not possible.

And it is in this arena where Romana shines. Where her warrior-like passion for women’s inner-work and development is changing the world one woman at a time. Where her wild talent and heart for soul-connection have created her “mother-blessing” ceremony to celebrate, bring joy back into, and ease the profound transition from woman to mother. 

Two weeks before my second child’s due date, Romana, another close friend of mine, and I gathered and opened a circle. I didn’t have a concrete idea of what Romy was going to do, but I had felt the power of connecting in a sacred circle of woman with her before. Together, we settled down into a dream-like state and Romy lead us through a light-filled and raw ceremony which included connecting to the endless source of our feminine power, Mother Earth, and to the soul of my unborn child. We listened to messages from both and we welcomed my child into this life with us. We closed the circle and reflected together about our individual experiences and impressions. The sense of belonging, of being held and truly seen by these women, was a profound gift. 

And it didn’t stop there! A few months after my son’s birth we gathered again. Simply being in the presence of the women with whom I shared such a profound connection with before my son’s birth was a gift- feeling held in their loving and knowing presence was healing in and of itself. 

We opened another sacred circle and entered that special dream-like state. My son sat in the circle with us again, this time outside of my body. I shared the story of his birth in this safe space; honouring him, honouring myself, and honouring the incredible experience we had been through together was… beyond words. Resting briefly with this great respect for life and the miracle of birth made me feel a renewed sense of self, a respect and deep love for my body, a joy in womanhood, and a knowing that I am powerful beyond imagination if I only just remember it. Romy lead us through connecting to each other and aspects of the divine on a soul level, again hearing messages for my son and I, and purely, joyously celebrating life. His life and our lives and the gift of giving life and living in sacred connection. Again, we closed the circle and reflected together.

This experience was transformational. And this kind of raw ceremony is exactly what I dearly hope all women can experience if and when her time for matrescence comes: a deeply sacred and soul-filled recognition of her raw power, her connection to Mother Earth and every mother who has ever been. 

I will never again take the birth of a Mother lightly. When woman create space to truly see and hold each other, we heal and grow in ways we never knew were possible.

Thank you Romy, for making this your life’s work.“